"Bismil Laa-hir.Rahmaa-nir-Raheem""Al-Hamdu Lillaahi Rabbil 'Aalameen was Salaatu was- Salaamu 'Alaa Sayidinaa Muhammadin wa Aalihi wa Asabihi Ajma 'een (tauheed- risalat- ahkirat and islam-iman-ihsan)

How to find shirk?
All living creatures have three essentials, Zaat (i.e. physical being - body), Sifat (i.e. attributes – hearing, seeing), and A’faal (i.e. actions). Attributes/Actions cannot exist without and independent of the Zaat but the Zaat can exist without and independent of attributes/actions. Allah (swt) has Zaat [which befits His majestay], Sifaat [which befit His majestay] and A’afal [which befit His majestay] but not like His creation.
Tawheed, is the belief of unity of Allah (swt) and it means; Allah (swt) is unique in His being, attributes and actions and no one equal to Him in these aspects.
Shirk mean association of a equal partner in being, attributes, or actions of Allah (swt). Associating, joining, ascribing a god-partner with Allah (swt) in absolute [or perfectly like] or relative [or partialy like] terms, is Shirk. Ascribing in absolute terms a partner with Allah (swt) in His attributes or actions, is Shirk.
General /basic rules of knowing whether shirk is applicable or not ?
1.What ever is mentioned plz check whether the difference is atayi/temporary/non eternal/limited for creation and its zaati/permanent/eternal/unlimited for allah .
2. Meanings differ with respect to allah and his creation.see whether its metmorphical/mazazi or literally/haqiqatan with respect to meanings
3.ask what type and category of shirk is it?
4. if its shirk ask him to prove tauheed on that grounds(it must be exclusive right of allah ie tauheed)
6.shirk is when- it is presented to creation with respect to tauheed (check with respect to meaning, , status, same way, application,nature and exclusive right of allah- whether its partial or complete then its shirk)
7. Ghairullah(other than allah )
A. with respect to nisbat/relation and hukum/order------it is hezbulllah (auliya/friends of allah) and hizboz shaitan(friends of shaitan)
B.with respect to zaat/being-----entire creation is ghairullah.
Shirk means partnership(means giving exclusive haq/right of allah to others)
Like ibadat is exclusive right of allah if given to others its shirk
For eg--- we are alive even allah is alive this is not shirk. allah is sami n baseer and humans are also sami and baseer this not shirk. same way allah is shaheed and nabi is also shaheed(witness).allah is rauf /rahim and even nabi is rauf n rahim this is not shirk .
Difference is atayi/temporary/non eternal/limited for creation and its zaati/permanent/eternal/ unlimited for allah. metmorphical/majazi or haqiqatan/literary meaning.
biz zaat and kamil/perfect-Allah alone is our ilah(fullfiller of needs) ,khaliq/khadir(powerfull) .Allah alone is responsible for health and wealth . Allah alone is responsible for profit and loss .Allah alone gives hidayat/guidance. Allah alone gives rizq .Allah alone gives ilm.
If someone says shirk ask him whether its in
1.rubbibiat(lordship) 2.uluviyat(worship) 3.asma wa siffat(names and attributes)
2.Shirk-akbar(biggerworship/lordship) and asgar(smaller like riya/show off)
3. Shirk-khafi and jaali
Shirk in Rubibiat has to be in – zaat(being)/siffat(attributes)/afaal(action)/asma(names)
Shirk in uluviyat has to be in-khalq/creation, ibadat/worship, qudrath/power, ilm/knowledge ,dua ,tasrauf/authority.
Shirk in tahrim/prohibition-hurmat/ conditions, nazr/niyaz, kasam/oath, adaat
When I want to talk to allah I say prayers and when I want that he talk to me I recite quran- Hazrath Ali(ra)
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